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"Parents located in North London is looking for an exceptional and qualified instructor to guide their smallest child on his initial journey to turning into an English gentleman."

Looking at this post, you might naturally overlook the term "initial stages" as just figurative language.

Yet, it could be the most significant aspect of this unusual job advert, as it aims to hire a mentor for a one-year-old.

Many of responses have since been received since the anonymous family published their search for the £180k-a-year tutor, who has to be "someone very special".

Over the last few weeks, the post has gained notice in the press, with many asking why?

Forward-Thinking Method

A tutoring expert, CEO and founder of a global tutoring firm, which is assisting the family in their quest, stated that notwithstanding initial doubt, he considered the plan "visionary", and "progressive".

When he spoke with the family, he noted they appreciated the unusual nature of their request, and how immature their son is.

But, they stated that they "preferred not to postpone any longer" to get a tutor, as they had waited until their elder sibling was five, and by that point "cultural influence had already taken hold".

What exactly does the family indicate by "cultural leaning"?

It's "everything", the expert answered. "How you eat, the way you speak".

He said the older sibling had picked up "very nuanced, unspoken signals" from the family, and had assumed their cultural ways. The family informed Adam they did not want the same situation to recur with their younger child.

The intention: To engage a English tutor, who needs to speak with standard English accent, to shape the baby from day one.

Subtle Influence

"A lot of the learning at the beginning here is rather osmotic," stated Adam.

It's by means of this subtle influence that the family are hoping the child will adopt the UK customs they aim to cultivate.

The consultant explained the tutor had to be somebody who attended "prestigious academies – comparable categories of schools as the family hope to send their son to".

"The tutor must be the appropriate candidate, they'll be doing things they don't even know they're doing, just naturally," he said.

Expense Not a Factor

The family explained to him the chosen tutor should preferably also have knowledge of or passion in riding, winter sports, creative fields and musical activities so as to shape the child in a broad spectrum of interests.

More than that though, he stated the family hoped the tutor to sign up the child on a selection of lessons so the child would be "horseback riding and starting an instrument by the time they are approximately three years old".

In the family's perspective, helping their son become a "English gentleman" will bring about achievement and open doors.

"For all the pros and cons of that, because it's undoubtedly a status symbol," he adds.

Yet, despite all this instruction in "UK identity", might the child pick up alleged cultural influence from the multicultural family he lives with anyway?

"Yes", replied he. "The parents understand this may not work, but they've simply adopted the view of, 'let's give it a go and let's go as soon as we can', because the cost of it is irrelevant," he explained.

Idealistic and Unrealistic

Several in the private teaching field who express those reservations.

Peter Cui, head and founder of an educational organization, who supplies personal educators, stated that "the journey of embracing two identities, or indeed, discovering oneself, is something that must be experienced personally, not designed."

Peter wrote that he had emigrated from Asia to the Britain at the period of seven, and had been educated knowing and living two backgrounds. He continued to be educated at Cambridge University.

"The idea that an individual can act as a living vessel of Britishness, an individual who can in some way transfer the characteristics of a British gentleman onto a 12-month-old child, appears optimistic and unfeasible," he commented.

"In my experience, engaging a distinctly English tutor from early childhood will not automatically create the outcome they hope for.

"I never had such a tutor, and however I have been lucky enough to enjoy several of the experiences they aspire for their son."

He continued: "The truth is, self-identity should not be forced from the external environment; it must be embraced, and it must come from within."

Buying Britishness

Certainly, Britishness is something the CEO thinks can be educated – and marketed.

"I think the fact that the world regards us in this regard is something that we should be cherishing|valuing|appreciating